That’s just about the most ignorant thing my eleven year old could ever say. It kinda hit a tiny baby, albeit a very sensitive nerve on me.
“Just because you say something, doesn’t mean it’s going to happen. First off, our lives are in God’s hands. Only He decides our future based on whether He feels we deserves something or not. Second, we only achieve our dreams through hard work and dedication, not merely thinking we’re going to get it because we’re entitled to it.”Come down from iCloud girl, things are not as easy as it appears. How on earth does anyone achieve anything without hard work and yes, even doing things we don’t feel like doing? If I don’t teach her responsibilities now (in small doses like chores) how is she to grow up a responsible adult who is ready to tackle bigger and much much more important tasks in her future? Whatever my children decide to become, it will only come with God’s grace and a lot of hard work and dedication. A lot.
I tend to go into my “Dr. Phil Mode” whenever I feel I need to make a strong clear point. Teaching my girls to be responsible is very important to me. I’m glad she brought that up because this lesson was fast coming. How to take the “I don’t want to” attitude and turn it into a “I can do” one? If it’s something that we struggle with, the more reason to focus on that area of our lives. Find something you dread then do it every day until it becomes second nature. I see life that way… If I want to enjoy something first I have to work hard at making it happen. You can only appreciate something when it was hard work to attain. This is why mother nature has us grueling through nine months of hard pregnancy so when baby is born we find it the most precious thing in the world to us. This is it, there is no other, it’s irreplaceable and we worked hard at it and now we want our reward to enjoying this amazing gift from God.
I don’t want to get a call when she’s an adult saying why I din’t teach her to be responsible because she overslept for an audition. By that time, it might be too late to learn this one important message. The time is now to learn responsibilities and to learn to want to tackle them. You may not want to some things but it sure feels great to feel proud of what you achieved. My girl is very creative and I know she got it. The message is not difficult. Only through hard work, dedication and God’s grace are we to achieve our goals in life. No other. Unless you win the Lottery, that’s a whole other story right there.
So keep on Keeping on… never giving up because our children are our greatest reward in life. I once heard someone say that parent’s are like slingshots and our children are the pebble in it. We pull back the rubber band hard and hope our children reach a lot farther than we ever did. This is our ultimate goal in life and we can only hope one day they see it.